If your loved one is dying, or has died, my heart is with you. There is nothing that possibly could prepare you for this, and yet you’re now expected to take this painful journey, while continuing to live your own life.
If you’re experiencing the loss or impending loss of a child, my heart grieves for you. Children are not supposed to die…and yet they do. Your heart is broken. I’m here to help you remember that the grief for your child is as deep as your love is for them. Our fast paced world nudges you to move forward with your grief and on with your life. Listen to your heart. There is no timeline for grief, no right way to do it and no one grieves the same. Please take the time you need and offer yourself compassion as you grieve.
There are many journeys we travel during our lifetime, but a journey filled with heartache and pain is one of the most difficult to navigate.
Traumatic events, small or large, either current or past, make life’s journey that much more complicated. It’s difficult to view life clearly when your lens is clouded or scarred by trauma you’ve experienced. Losing a child or a loved one is traumatic.
We’ve all experienced trauma in our lives, some small, others big, but all significant. Trying to navigate painful or traumatic experiences is part of life’s journey. An unchartered one made that much more difficult while deep in the trenches of pain.
A journey is defined as an “act of traveling from one place to another” or “passage from one stage or experience to another”. Some journeys are easier than others, but always eased when supported by others.
A Gentle Heart Journey contains the work of the heart…heart is the Latin root word, cor for courage.
Courage is vital to living our lives fully. We must be open to our own vulnerability to walk this path.
“Courage originally meant ‘To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.’ Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line.”
“True courage comes when we decide to take a risk without knowing the outcome. It means showing up and letting yourself be seen, despite the risk.”
– Brene Brown
Your courage to face your loss, grief and trauma is to be commended. Although it might be easier to push away your feelings, it does not serve you in the long run. As you may have experienced, painful emotions continue to arise until they are felt and healed.
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Bonnie Compton, APRN, BC, CPNP, is an End of Life Doula, Conscious Living & Dying Coach, Speaker and Certified RTM Trauma Practitioner. She is also a Child and Adolescent Therapist, Parent Coach, and Pediatric Nurse Practitioner. Bonnie is the author of the book, “Mothering with Courage” and a Reiki Practitioner.
“What moms often forget, or perhaps don’t even realize, is that at the end of the day they have the answers within. Mothering with Courage provides the tools to help mothers tap into their own knowing. With courage, a mom learns to remain open-hearted, to become self-reflective, and to choose to rise above the ups and downs of motherhood and see her children and herself in a different light. A courageous perspective will enable her to consciously choose what works best for herself and her children. It is only with courage that she can focus on and reflect on her own way of being as a mom, and then let go of what no longer serves her and her family. As a result, the courageous mom feels more confident in her decisions, learns to adjust when necessary, and enjoys her journey as a mom.”